The group-work sessions are periodical & in the shape of intensive daily seminars: a fresh & composite group of volunteers & professionals, young to old, dedicates one entire day every three months to deepen the issues related to the relation care & the interventions with individuals in situations of marginality that they met during street work, in shelthers, as well as within their Kuklos project.
- how do we feel within the interventions we run
- how can we interact with the "lack" of the others
- how can we manage an intervention of care if & when we are ourselves passing some harsh time
The emotional quality of the relation is never static, but it moves around a reciprocity matrix. This matrix is inherent: the reciprocity is an intrinsic quality of the relation, the element of uniqueness into which all the meanings & significations merge.
Under this light, it is possible to develop a "condensate" of consciousness made of: the awareness of our identitarian perception (who we are); the awareness of our emotional condition (how we feel); the awareness of our prejudices & stereotypes (how we represented what we expected to find); the awareness of the dynamics of a given relational circumstance (what we receive, perceive & return back in the relation).
A role-play game showed the evidence of how a given relational dynamic (in our case, an aggression) was deeply connected with a projective movement of existential hardship. When such an emotional state persists, it tends to crystallize & turn into an absolute by which a person defends himself by moving the emotional quality of their "partridge evil". It is almost a demand of external recognition of being someone different from the internal rage & turbulence: if I push my aggression on some else, than I might pretend I am not angry, or still sign my anger as a response to the counter-aggression arising from the other.
The role-play allows to see clearly how the care-work is not over-defining (I have no power to define the care-process of the other): it is a process where the true & only subject of the care is the subject of care itself.
This is evident on a daily experience. As many might have witnessed during their life, their only available change is the one each single individual feels it is possible at first place (I could), & it is achievable (I would) in second place.
Ignoring an emotion, its denial & mute, they are all acts which enlights something of the subject & of its defenses: the silence might be a wall when one doesn't listen.
At opposite, when isolation & self-isolation take place, when the denial of evidence is persistent, when the group & the gare-giver run useless risk, or play the hidden game of self-affirmation, the "do-not part" might close the speech of development any internal & relational awareness.
The process that came trough this idea is easy: in the beginning, the group defines a case study. Then the group collects all its relating questions. In the role-play, all participants sit in a circle, with closed-eyes & hand-taking, so to create a physical circularity while focusing on their inside. The clasped-hands create a physical connection & circularity; the closed-eyes prepare to look inside, favouring an inner-vision. The conductor moves silently around the participants, asking to each & everyone the before-defined questions: this allows to investigate the different components of the case-study as collectively shared & perceived. Different bodies that perceive & give speech to an identity.
The intensity & the emotional quality of such share is usually very high, so the group must be prepared to it; when it is the right moment in time, it is one of these group-work moments which I felt as particularly significant, enriching, & important.
I want to thank my collegue Alice for her involuntary initial inspiration, & to have shared the conduction with me during this session in Padova. I wish her "all the best" for her new project & adventure in south America.